The Real Royalty in the Wedding

“Be who God intended you to be and you will set the world on fire”St. Catherine of Siena

Millions of people are partaking in the Royal Wedding this morning – most, from the comfort of their homes. The television reporters are focusing on everything from the wedding dress (designed by Sarah Burton, Creative Director of the Alexander McQueen collection), to the hats, the balcony kiss, and all things British. Despite my desires to sleep, I felt the need to wake up early and watch history unfold. Out of the millions of souls watching so vigilantly, I can’t help but wonder how many actively listened and took in the words spoken during the ceremony.

My gladness began as I listened to James Middleton, brother of Kate Middleton, read Romans 12 aloud for the world – a world desperately in need of Christ. I believe wedding ceremonies shed light on the couple in a number of ways, but one such way is in what they choose for their reading(s). While I love 1 Corinthians 13, it was very nice to hear something other than what has become the most common passage used for weddings. Romans 12 was such a great surprise, I looked all the more forward to hearing the message from The Bishop of London, the Right Reverend and Right Honourable Dr. Richard Chartres. I hope and pray people let the message of Christ resonate within their souls and most of all, I hope the bride and groom recognize Christ alone as Lord of hosts and King of glory. This was a beautiful wedding, and I hope it will be a beautiful marriage with the only true royalty at the center.

“Many are full of fear for the future of the prospects of our world but the message of the celebrations in this country and far beyond its shores is the right one – this is a joyful day! It is good that people in every continent are able to share in these celebrations because this is, as every wedding day should be, a day of hope.

In a sense every wedding is a royal wedding with the bride and the groom as king and queen of creation, making a new life together so that life can flow through them into the future.

William and Catherine, you have chosen to be married in the sight of a generous God who so loved the world that he gave himself to us in the person of Jesus Christ. And in the Spirit of this generous God, husband and wife are to give themselves to each another.

A spiritual life grows as love finds its centre beyond ourselves. Faithful and committed relationships offer a door into the mystery of spiritual life in which we discover this; the more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed. In marriage we are seeking to bring one another into fuller life.

It is of course very hard to wean ourselves away from self-centerdness. And people can dream of doing such a thing but the hope should be fulfilled it is necessary a solemn decision that, whatever the difficulties, we are committed to the way of generous love.

You have both made your decision today – “I will” – and by making this new relationship, you have aligned yourselves with what we believe is the way in which life is spiritually evolving, and which will lead to a creative future for the human race.
We stand looking forward to a century which is full of promise and full of peril. Human beings are confronting the question of how to use wisely a power that has been given to us through the discoveries of the last century. We shall not be converted to the promise of the future by more knowledge, but rather by an increase of loving wisdom and reverence, for life, for the earth and for one another.

Marriage should transform, as husband and wife make one another their work of art. It is possible to transform as long as we do not harbor ambitions to reform our partner. There must be no coercion if the Spirit is to flow; each must give the other space and freedom. Chaucer, the London poet, sums it up in a pithy phrase:

“Whan maistrie [mastery] comth, the God of Love anon,
Beteth his wynges, and farewell, he is gon.”

As the reality of God has faded from so many lives in the West, there has been a corresponding inflation of expectations that personal relations alone will supply meaning and happiness in life. This is to load our partner with too great a burden. We are all incomplete: we all need the love which is secure, rather than oppressive; we need mutual forgiveness, to thrive.

As we move towards our partner in love, following the example of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit is quickened within us and can increasingly fill our lives with light. This leads to a family life which offers the best conditions in which the next generation can practice and exchange those gifts which can overcome fear and division and incubate the coming world of the Spirit, whose fruits are love and joy and peace.

I pray that all of us present and the many millions watching this ceremony and sharing in your joy today, will do everything in our power to support and uphold you in your new life. And I pray that God will bless you in the way of life that you have chosen, that way which is expressed in the prayer that you have composed together in preparation for this day:

God our Father, we thank you for our families; for the love that we share and for the joy of our marriage. In the busyness of each day keep our eyes fixed on what is real and important in life and help us to be generous with our time and love and energy. Strengthened by our union help us to serve and comfort those who suffer. We ask this in the Spirit of Jesus Christ. Amen.”

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